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There are different types of pregnant women in this world. Some need to know absolutely everything about their pregnancy and have to tell everyone they meet about it. Some want to know everything but keep some details a secret. And, others choose not to find out any details and keep everything a secret. That was me. But, I wasn’t always like that.
Before I got pregnant, I knew I wanted to know the sex of my future baby. How can you have the opportunity to find out the sex and not take it?! My husband was on the fence about it, but ultimately, he said I could do whatever I wanted. Then we had a conversation with a friend of ours about how he and his wife did not find out the sex, and it was the best decision they ever made. He strongly recommended that when we did get pregnant, we let this one thing stay a surprise: we wouldn’t regret it.
I still wasn’t convinced, but my husband sure was. When I got pregnant with our first baby, I still wanted to find out if we were having a boy or a girl. However, God had different plans, and I lost our baby at 8 weeks. So, I never had the opportunity to know if we were having a she or a he.
There was no gender reveal party. There was no pink or blue.
So, when I was pregnant with our daughter Becca, my whole attitude toward gender reveal changed. Any woman who has gone through a pregnancy after loss knows the level of anxiety you feel during pregnancy. It’s out of this world. I fought to maintain my cool on a daily basis, and the last thing I was concerned about was whether I was having a boy or a girl. I just needed a healthy baby.
So, we made all of our large purchases with both a boy and a girl in mind (which only makes sense so you can use them again with the next one!) We picked out a boy name and a girl name, and we didn’t tell a soul. It was the best decision we made, and I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. Because when we had our baby, that moment was for us- and we needed that moment after what we had gone through. It was perfect.
Not everyone agreed with our choice to not find out, and we were mocked for it sometimes. But, not everyone understood our motivation behind keeping everything a secret- and they didn’t need to. Like I said, that moment was for us.
The most popular question I got during my pregnancy was but how are you going to decorate the nursery?? Well, again, this was one of the last things on my very anxious mind; but it’s not that difficult to have a beautiful, classic gender neutral nursery look.
I have pulled together some of my favorites from Pinterest and included them here. To get more details on each look, click on the picture.
I love these looks because they are so subtle, timeless, and elegant, whether you are having a boy or a girl. These nurseries would be such a relaxing place, where you would want to spend time with your little one.
I’m also going to show you how we decorated Becca’s room, and I will share with you how to get the same look.
I loved gray and white themes. Since it was a baby room, though, I wanted a baby element in the room: giraffes! So, I used yellow as an accent. We bought the crib, bookcase, dresser, and rocker before she was born. We added the curtains, rug, and picture frames after she was born, because they gave the room a bit of feminine touch. I’m in love with her room- it is my favorite in the house!
If you make the choice to keep everything a secret and find out the best surprise of your life on the day you give birth, then don’t fret about decorating your nursery! There are so many beautiful gender neutral options out there that don’t include the stereotypical neutral “green.”